In former times the sexual dislike of the woman, the "anorgasmia" or the lacking sexual need were summarized under the umbrella term frigidity, which means "coldness of feeling" in the actual sense.
This disorder manifests itself in a lack of sexual desire and reduced
pleasure during sex. While in men sexuality takes place more on the
physical level and orgasm is the goal, in women sexuality takes place
mainly in the head. Therefore, psyche, mind and body have to be in
harmony if sexual experience is to be enjoyable.
every phase of life sexual activity and sexual need can be affected.
One should distinguish between reduced appetite, i.e. less desire,
sexual arousal disorders, orgasm disorders and other dysfunctions.
Only in about two percent of women are sexual problems due to purely
with this disorder have few or no sexual fantasies or needs. In some
cases, these women even develop a real aversion to the sexual part in
a relationship. Disorders of sexual appetite do not rule out sexual
arousal or satisfaction, but mean that sexual activities are less
sexual stimulation, little or no vaginal fluid is formed, so that
sexual intercourse is often painful. In addition to these physical
symptoms, women also subjectively feel a lack of excitement and
the arousal phase, the affected women have no or only a delayed
orgasm. In sexual medicine it is not yet completely clear whether
this is a real disorder. It can also be a variant of female
sexuality. The women often do not suffer from the lack of orgasm, but
enjoy the form of sexual affection and tenderness and do not feel
unsatisfied. They are normally excitable.
are two different forms: the first is dyspareunia, which is pain in
the vagina or lower abdomen that occurs during normal arousal during
or after sexual intercourse. The other symptom is vaginismus, which
causes involuntary cramping of the vaginal muscles when the man wants
to insert the penis or a finger into the vagina. Sexual intercourse
is impossible or painful.
disorders are caused by a combination of psychological and physical
causes. Basically, the affected women seem to be under a certain
pressure to perform or are very critical in their self-observation.
The pressure to perform is influenced by this:
upbringing, the parents impart values that can affect later sexual
behaviour. If sex is considered immoral in a strictly conservative
upbringing, it is unlikely that sex can be enjoyed in adulthood.
women have problems in partnership. It can be the daily quarrel or
the lack of communication about sexual needs that stands in the way
of sexual pleasure.
previous sexual activities have been experienced as frightening or
humiliating, the later pleasurable experience of sexuality is made
more difficult. Experiences of abuse play a serious role in this
you have no experience with your own body, e.g. during masturbation,
or no knowledge of the physical processes during sexual arousal, this
can lead to self insecurity and thus to an impairment of sexual
during sexual intercourse often also occurs when the external
genitals change, e.g. due to inflammation,
scars, etc. The pain is often caused by the sexual intercourse. The
dryness of the vaginal entrance can also be a cause of pain. A vagina
that is too dry can be traced back, for example, to insufficient
excitation or an estrogen deficiency after the menopause.
contraception and the fear of pregnancy influence sexual feelings. In
the same way, the fear of sexually transmitted diseases can lead to
tension during sex.
factor is that many women are unable to free themselves from
traditional social ideas about female sexuality. They behave
passively, do not themselves make any demands on sex as a partnership
and therefore do not express any wishes of their own.
principle, a partner therapy (separate sessions) should take place,
the prerequisite for this is the agreement of both partners. If the
causes of the disorders lie in the relationship itself, a couple
therapy (joint sessions) should be considered.
aim of a therapy is for both partners to learn to enjoy intimacy and
sexuality. The aim is to deal with each other in a more relaxed way
and to reduce any pressure to perform. Both partners should learn
that not every tenderness has to end with sexual intercourse. The
sexual needs and preferences should be researched.
to the therapy for premature ejaculation, there is a step program in
which the partners "learn" to meet each other tenderly.
Parallel to the "exercises" in partnership, it is important that the partners inform each other about sexuality, e.g. about sexual practices and positions. They should learn to express their own wishes and resolve any conflicts. It is particularly recommended that women - if they have no experience with it - get to know their body better through masturbation. This can also be well integrated into the partnership exercises already mentioned.
In addition, it is necessary to treat any physical difficulties that may exist - e.g. estrogen deficiency can be well treated with creams or the lack of moisture can be compensated by water-soluble lubricants.
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